Our Deepest Fear ~ Marianne Williamson

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

~ by Marianne Williamson
from A Return To Love: Reflections on
the Principles of A Course in Miracles

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The Empathic Civilization

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My First Blog Posting

This is my first blog posting (at least it was my first one until my organizational skills misplaced it in the order of posts ~ oh well, its all learning!).  I guess that there has to be a first one and that I could wait forever to begin.  It feels a bit presumptuous for me to be blogging.  After all, what do I have to say?

For at least a couple of years I have felt that I should start blogging and that I should develop a website.  If I am really serious about wanting to establish my own business I will need clients.  If I want clients, I will need to market myself.  No, I don’t want to market myself; way too much negativity associated with that concept.  So, maybe I need to make an offer to the world.  Or, as my mentor, Simone, suggested I need to develop an attraction plan (that might be a good idea in the personal relationship domain as well).  But as time goes by and I do not find the energy for an attraction plan or find the clarity around my offer, I have come to the conclusion that this is not something that I have energy or a passion for.  It is just not what is wanting to happen.

It is strange how letting go of something can allow it to resurface in a different way.  Letting go of the should I have felt about blogging has not been easy.  As I keep reminding coaching clients and my leadership students, old patterns are hard to break and it takes lots of practice, lots of patience and lots of gentleness toward oneself.  And then one day, you notice that things have shifted.  Things have shifted for me over the past few months as I have been living in the space of transition without a job, waiting and trying to discern what life has in store for me.  In the process, I’ve had lots of time and opportunity to get acquainted with many of my should.  When I do, I have been trying to gently remind myself that they no longer serve me and that I can redirect my mental attention back to the discernment of what really wants to happen and how I can align myself with that.  And then I notice my monkey mind running off again after another should and I redirect my attention once again.

Somewhere along the way in this process, I seem to have let go of the need to develop a website or blog for the purpose of marketing myself.  Halleluiah!  During this time I have also had the good fortune to be learning like crazy.  My interests are diverse and my curiosity is insatiable.  Unfortunately, my memory is also pretty feeble.   It seems like I have an ability to forget stuff almost as fast as I learn it and I frequently find myself sorta remembering something and unable to recall the details and – even more unfortunately – to remember the source.

Something I do still remember (it was not that long ago that I read it) is from Steven Johnson’s book, Where Good Ideas Come From: The History of Innovation.  In it he talks about the enlightenment practice of a day book.  Many of the geniuses of the day like Ben Franklin carried a book in which they recorded their random thoughts and observations and interesting quotes.  These day books were often the source of inspiration or of the missing idea or information that would lead to new break-throughs years later.  That’s what I need!  But my experience has been that I can carry a little moleskin book around until it falls apart and never remember to record what I later wish I could remember.  And a little book just does not have the relational functionality that I long for in my personal knowledge management (ah, knowledge management or knowledge ecology – that is one of those areas that fascinate me).

So, this is why I am blogging – because I want a practice and a method for hanging onto what interests and fascinates and intrigues and inspires me.  I want a place where poetry is as welcome as scientific findings or musings, where I can keep track of ideas and people and internet resources.  I want a place where I can make and discover links and connections and I want to play with a new tool just for the fun of it.  So I am blogging for me.  If no one else ever finds there way here, that will be ok.  If others do find their way here and are attracted by some of the same things that appeal to me – that’s great.  We can be companions on the journey.

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The Pro Action Café

Thank you to Ria Baeck and Rainer von Leoprechting, friends from Brussels, for creating  Pro Action Cafés.  This is a methodology that combines rounds of small table conversation of World Café with the Open Space encouragement of anyone with passion and responsibility to call a conversation. It is an excellent way to move a room-full of ideas from concept to plans for next steps.

Link: The Pro Action Café

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We Were Made for Times Like This ~ Dr. Clarissa Pinkola-Estés

Do Not Lose Heart, We Were Made for These Times

“Mis estimados,
Do not lose heart. We were made for these times.

I have heard from so many recently who are deeply and properly bewildered. They are concerned about the state of affairs in our world right now. It is true, one has to have strong cojones and ovarios to withstand much of what passes for “good” in our culture today. Abject disregard of what the soul finds most precious and irreplaceable and the corruption of principled ideals have become, in some large societal arenas, “the new normal,” the grotesquerie of the week.

It is hard to say which one of the current egregious matters has rocked people’s worlds and beliefs more. Ours is a time of almost daily jaw-dropping astonishment and often righteous rage over the latest degradations of what matters most to civilized, visionary people.

…You are right in your assessments. The lustre and hubris some have aspired to while endorsing acts so heinous against children, elders, everyday people, the poor, the unguarded, the helpless, is breathtaking.

Yet … I urge you, ask you, gentle you, to please not spend your spirit dry by bewailing these difficult times. Especially do not lose hope. Most particularly because, the fact is – we were made for these times.

Yes. For years, we have been learning, practicing, been in training for and just waiting to meet on this exact plain of engagement. I cannot tell you often enough that we are definitely the leaders we have been waiting for, and that we have been raised, since childhood, for this time precisely.

…I grew up on the Great Lakes and recognize a seaworthy vessel when I see one. Regarding awakened souls, there have never been more able crafts in the waters than there are right now across the world. And they are fully provisioned and able to signal one another as never before in the history of humankind.

I would like to take your hands for a moment and assure you that you are built well for these times. Despite your stints of doubt, your frustrations in arighting all that needs change right now, or even feeling you have lost the map entirely, you are not without resource, you are not alone.

Look out over the prow; there are millions of boats of righteous souls on the waters with you. In your deepest bones, you have always known this is so.

Even though your veneers may shiver from every wave in this stormy roil, I assure you that the long timbers composing your prow and rudder come from a forest greater. That long-grained lumber is known to withstand storms, to hold together, to hold its own, and to advance, regardless.

… We have been in training for a dark time such as this, since the day we assented to come to Earth. For many decades, worldwide, souls just like us have been felled and left for dead in so many ways over and over — brought down by naiveté, by lack of love, by suddenly realizing one deadly thing or another, by not realizing something else soon enough, by being ambushed and assaulted by various cultural and personal shocks in the extreme.

We all have a heritage and history of being gutted, and yet remember this especially … we have also, of necessity, perfected the knack of resurrection.

Over and over again we have been the living proof that that which has been exiled, lost, or foundered – can be restored to life again. This is as true and sturdy a prognosis for the destroyed worlds around us as it was for our own once mortally wounded selves.

…Though we are not invulnerable, our risibility supports us to laugh in the face of cynics who say “fat chance,” and “management before mercy,” and other evidences of complete absence of soul sense. This, and our having been ‘to Hell and back’ on at least one momentous occasion, makes us seasoned vessels for certain. Even if you do not feel that you are, you are.

Even if your puny little ego wants to contest the enormity of your soul, the smaller self can never for long subordinate the larger Self. In matters of death and rebirth, you have surpassed the benchmarks many times. Believe the evidence of any one of your past testings and trials. Here it is: Are you still standing? The answer is, Yes! (And no adverbs like “barely” are allowed here). If you are still standing, ragged flags or no, you are able. Thus, you have passed the bar. And even raised it. You are seaworthy.

…In any dark time, there is a tendency to veer toward fainting over how much is wrong or unmended in the world. Do not focus on that. Do not make yourself ill with overwhelm. There is a tendency too to fall into being weakened by perseverating on what is outside your reach, by what cannot yet be. Do not focus there. That is spending the wind without raising the sails.

We are needed, that is all we can know. And though we meet resistance, we more so will meet great souls who will hail us, love us and guide us, and we will know them when they appear. Didn’t you say you were a believer? Didn’t you say you pledged to listen to a voice greater? Didn’t you ask for grace? Don’t you remember that to be in grace means to submit to the Voice greater? You have all the resource you need to ride any wave, to surface from any trough.

…In the language of aviators and sailors, ours is to sail forward now, all balls out. Understand the paradox: If you study the physics of a waterspout, you will see that the outer vortex whirls far more rapidly than the inner one. To calm the storm means to quiet the outer layer, to cause it, by whatever countervailing means, to swirl much less, to more evenly match the velocity of the inner, far less volatile core – till whatever has been lifted into such a vicious funnel falls back to Earth, lays down, is peaceable again.

One of the most important steps you can take to help calm the storm is to not allow yourself to be taken in a flurry of overwrought emotion or despair – thereby accidentally contributing to the swale and the swirl. Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach.

Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely.

It is not given to us to know which acts or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good. What is needed for dramatic change is an accumulation of acts – adding, adding to, adding more, continuing. We know that it does not take “everyone on Earth” to bring justice and peace, but only a small, determined group who will not give up during the first, second, or hundredth gale.

…One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your soul. Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times.

The light of the soul throws sparks, can send up flares, builds signal fires … causes proper matters to catch fire. To display the lantern of soul in shadowy times like these – to be fierce and to show mercy toward others, both — are acts of immense bravery and greatest necessity. Struggling souls catch light from other souls who are fully lit and willing to show it. If you would help to calm the tumult, this is one of the strongest things you can do.

…There will always be times in the midst of “success right around the corner, but as yet still unseen” when you feel discouraged. I too have felt despair many times in my life, but I do not keep a chair for it; I will not entertain it. It is not allowed to eat from my plate.

The reason is this: In my uttermost bones I know something, as do you. It is that there can be no despair when you remember why you came to Earth, who you serve, and who sent you here. The good words we say and the good deeds we do are not ours: They are the words and deeds of the One who brought us here.

In that spirit, I hope you will write this on your wall: When a great ship is in harbor and moored, it is safe, there can be no doubt. But … that is not what great ships are built for.

…This comes with much love and prayer that you remember who you came from, and why you came to this beautiful, needful Earth.

~ Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

“Do Not Lose Heart, We Were Made for These Times,
Copyright ©2001, 2003, 2004 Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés, All rights reserved.

CODA
The original title is Letter To A Young Activist During Troubled Times: with the subtitle, Do Not Lose Heart, We were Made for These Times.

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Change Through Conversation ~ Tuesday Ryan-Hart

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Give Birth to Your Images ~ Rilke

 

You must give birth
to your images
they are the future within you
wanting to be born.

Fear not the strangeness that you feel
The future has to enter us
long before it happens.

~ Rainer Marie Rilke

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Simplicity ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

“I wouldn’t give a fig for the simplicity this side of complexity; I would give everything for the simplicity on the far side of complexity.”

~Oliver Wendell Holmes

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Companioning ~ Wolfelt

In the spirit of Iteneris, this poem is also a  traveler.  I first obtained it from Teresa Smith-Dixon, a local hospice manager who shared it during the passing of a dear community member and wife of my friend and mentor, David Still.  I shared the poem with Mary Shippy who shared it with Simone Poutnik who read it during the inter-generational gathering of the Pioneers  of Change at Axladitsa in 2008.  From there, it ended up on the Evolutionary Nexus website before finally getting attribute to Dr. Alan Wolfelt from the Center for Loss and Transition  in Ft. Collins, Colorado.

Thank you Dr. Wolfert on behalf of all the people who have been touched by these words and inspired by the vision of Companioning.

Companioning is about being present to another person’s pain;
It is not about taking away the pain.

Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being;
it is not about thinking you are responisble for finding the wayout.

Companioning is about honoring the spirit;
it is not about focusing on the intellect.

Companioning is about listening with the heart;
it is not about analyzing with the head.

Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others;
it is not about judging or directing those struggles.

Companioning is about walking alongside;
it is not about leading or being led.

Companioning means discovering the gifts of the sacred silence;
it is not about filling up everymoement with words.

Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusioin;
it is not about imposing order and logic.

Companioning is about learning from others;
it is not about teaching them.

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